As you have heard me say before, the importance of Emotional Intelligence cannot be underestimated. Studies have shown that success depends more on Emotional Intelligence than on our IQ (Intelligence Quotient).
And if you want success in your relationships, Emotional Intelligence is even more important.
That’s why I love following the work of Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves. I subscribe to their newsletter, and today’s article was very eye-opening.
They spoke of the 8 Signs You’re Being Lied To. And you will be stunned by some of the facts about our lying habits!
These are some of the findings of an extensive University of Massachusetts study:
• 60% of people lie during a typical 10-minute conversation
• On average, we tell 2-3 lies during that 10 minutes
• Most people have no idea they’ve told the lies until it’s pointed out to them
What I found most interesting is that although there is no gender difference for how much we lie – women and men tended to lie just as often – the REASONS each gender lies is different. And this is very telling.
Here’s the difference:
Women tend to lie to make the other person feel good.
Men tend to lie to make themselves look good.
A little something to keep in mind on your next date! 🙂
The article goes on to list 8 signs people exhibit when they’re lying. To learn how to recognize these signs, read more about it here.
As a Highly Sensitive Person, I feel like I exhibit some of the more nervous traits even when I’m NOT lying, so I wonder if these signs apply to HSP’s as much as to non-HSP folks?
How do you feel about that?
Let me know what you thought of the article by posting a comment below, or on my Facebook page here.
I’d love to know if and how this helped you!
It says 60% of people lie during 10 min conversation. That’s more than 1/2, of his subjects, but it’s nowhere near everybody. It didn’t say where these conversations took place, but I get the impression it was in a business office context in a city. I have the idea that the people I usually talk with don’t lie as often as that. I wonder if he’s made studies in various places, various environments, and if he knows if there are signs that someone is telling the truth? I wonder if you’d find a different rate of lying in different communities? I have heard that someone did a study that showed the well-to-do were more likely to lie and cheat than the indigent. Terron
Hi Terron, you make some very good points. I tried to find out more about this study, and found this link – perhaps it will give you more info that you are looking for: http://www2.hawaii.edu/~jamess/feldman.htm